婚后的第一个初夕夜

在美国，没有热呼呼的火锅，没有家人，只有简单的韩国餐， 有老公，有麻将。。。

突然，有点想家。。。

Quiet time

Just realised that my last post was in early Nov… Oh gosh! Where have I been and what have I done?

I have been thinking alot…about the past mainly… Friendships in particular… I wondered to myself, which is worst? Some one out right tell you the truth? OR Someone telling you a white lie (so as to make you feel better) and you found out that it was just a lie? I would wanted truth but if the truth is too much in my face I don’t think I can take it… But then again, when I found that later that I have been lied too, I felt a big ouch in my heart (and even some anger). Perhaps, its a sign I should move on…

They are others whereby I realised how fake I am infront of them… I mean we used to be a clique but when I had the opportunity to talk to them (some I din even see them for like 2 years?!) vs. JF’s friends at the same time I realised how fake I was with them. I have decided to not to keep in contact with them again (maybe just one). She feels the most ‘real’ amongst them.

And then there are the ones who used you. I have a friend in tertiary study who asked me to be a guarantor and phoof! she disappeared after that… She showed up again when she first got engaged and phoof! she disappeared. Her wedding is next month and yup! she showed up again (fyi, this time with a dif guy). Argh! As much as I missed our days together, they are so over.

Most of the time, I do care… I do try to stay connected but sometimes the will is not as strong as the heart… But for the few friends I am left with, YES! you are definitely my focus…

Other stuff (non friendship stuff)… My mum has been quite a pain in the *** eversince I got married. I think the most bizzare thing she has done to date is to ‘book’ the confinement lady for me when I am not even like P!

Work stuff has been crazy, I am like the only employee or rather lower rank staff in the company. Everyone else who is leaving will hand their portfolio to me! Am I the dumpster or what? Just have to hang in there…I need $$$ to pay bills and most importantly fund my holidays… But if you do see adverts in my future employer(you know which one I am referring to ya), please let me know ASAP!

Weekends are mostly filled with house warmings (I am losing count) and recently baking. Our recent flop (yes, flop) is butter cake. We are trying to fix the problem and hopefully by the time it reaches you the next time, they are FAB! wuhahahha…Who knows?! Baking maybe my career?

Alrighty, JF is on his way home and I need to play housewife for the first time in weeks (oops! I have been a bad wife).

He does know me…

LT (lying on the bed, tossing and turning): I can’t sleep, can I read the magazine?

JF: Sure. But can i change side with you? (the side lamp is on his side)

LT: Ok. (started reading)

after 5 mins…

LT: You know what, why don’t we switch on the aircon? I can sleep better.

JF: I know you are going to say that.

LT: …

Drop by drop, form the ocean

I was reading Jen’s blog the other day and she was talking about cowardice. I have to admit that I have been a coward too…like asking anyone on the bus / train to give up their seat for someone in need. For some strange reason I am scared. By speaking up, I will be different but at the same time making a difference.

 

Few days ago, there was this army boy dozing comfortably beside a lady, causing her much discomfort. She was at her verge to let him know that he was causing her much discomfort but she didn’t. I couldn’t help but think to myself that if he did that one more time, I will wake him up. And I did. My heart raced (I don’t know why). But I feel good. ZF has always been telling me that her mum will ‘target’ people to give their seats up for people in need. I think I am now ready to join the movement. Though it is not the most ideal…because I think people should give it up willingly but till then…

夫妻的姻緣

快樂不是因為擁有的多，而是因為計較的少

她比他小20歲，嫁給他的時候，家鄉的人都以為她傍上大款。只有她知道，他到底是一個什麼樣的男人。

他只是一個普通的男人，黑，醜，一口黃牙。媒人當初可沒這麼說，只說是個過日子的男人，就因為家裏窮給耽擱了，一直沒找上媳婦。那陣子，沒找上媳婦的都去山區找，有四川的、山西的、湖南的……花幾千元就可以找來。那男人也托人帶一個回來，這就是她，一個死了丈夫的女人。

媒人說男人富著呢，靠手藝吃飯。女人因為急於逃離那個家庭，問都沒問男人會什麼手藝就嫁過來了。過來後才知道，他的手藝就是在外面風吹雨淋地修鞋，再加上男人長得醜陋，讓她有種上當的感覺。回去，已無退路，婆家人叫她喪門星，說是她剋死了丈夫。

再婚後，男人很寵她，隔三岔五給她買些小玩意來，一盒粉餅，一支口紅，幾串荔枝……她長到30歲，從來沒有用過口紅，更不用說吃荔枝了，很快，她就覺得自己比楊貴妃還要幸福，吃荔枝的時候，男人不吃，只是傻傻地看著她吃。她說：’你也吃。’他說：’我不愛吃它，看著你吃我就高興。’後來，她偶然上街，隨口問了一下荔枝的價格，嚇一跳，竟然要20元1斤。她的眼睛一時模糊了，他怎麼可能不吃荔枝?他是捨不得吃呀。

她更加疼他，早晨早早起來給他做飯，晚上做好熱乎乎的飯菜等他回來；冬天的時候，男人在街上修鞋，一天下來，凍得全身冰冷，女人就把男人的腳放到自己懷裏暖著。男人也很知足，說是上輩子修來的福才會娶到她，他為什麼50歲還沒有結婚，就為等她唄。說得女人心花怒放。

女人見男人每天那麼累很心疼，她說：’給我買台機器吧，我和你一塊修鞋去。’男人不答應，說他掙的錢足夠養活她，可女人認真了，偏要去。於是街上總能看到一對老夫少妻在修鞋，兩個人緊挨著，有鞋修的時候，兩個人就一起動手，空閒時，就有說有笑地聊著。冬天刮大風，女人的手都凍紅了，耳朵也凍得青一塊紫一塊，這時，男人買來一塊烤紅薯，紅薯散發著誘人的香味。男人剝開，用嘴吹著，卻不吃，他把紅薯放到女人嘴邊，女人幸福地咬一口，又吹一吹，讓男人吃。他們一人一口地吃著，好像享受一頓美食，好像吃著愛情的聖餐。

有一天，男人對女人說：’總有一天，我會走在你前面。’女人就哭了，說：’那我和你一起去。’

男人說：’不行!’然後男人又說：’我們現在的錢還不是很多，再掙幾年，給你養老應該沒問題。還有，我給你在地裏種了500棵樹，等有一天我去了，你也不能動了，那500棵樹也長大了，我相信它們能夠養活你。’

女人撲到男人懷裏哭了。500棵樹，那只是500棵樹嗎?這一輩子從沒有人替她這樣想過，可這個男人甚至為她想到老年，她覺得這輩子真是值了。現在城裏人興什麼夫妻樹、愛情樹，而她的男人給她種的樹要比那些樹珍貴一萬倍，那是一片夫妻同心樹。

Tears welled up my eyes after reading this…

The Bucket List

Touching, Inspiring Movie… Hope you have a chance to catch it…

Have you written your list today?

Lesson well learnt

Thou shall never let anger gets into my head…Ever again… Keep cool *whistling*

Tue I went to The Cathay to get 4 tix for What happens in Vegas. An auntie cut my Q and stood in front of me. I bet the guy serving that line saw it (FYI, he was the manager and his name is Eugene) but he still serve her. So the guy behind me told the auntie that she is cutting Q and the auntie said “No, there was no one standing behind me when I was Q-ing?” WHAT? I know I am slim and all but hey I was there with a bunch of people standing behind me!!!! Then she continued ”There is no one standing behind me unless my eye got problem” DUH! YES! Your eyes really got problem (of cos I din say that) All these time, the manager just stood and say NOTHING. Nothing at all. So after he served her, he walked away and asked another staff to serve me. WTH! I just feel that he got no guts lo. Anyway, I unhappily bought the tickets and left.

Last night when I wanna use my UOB card to pay for dinner I realised that it was not there. My heart dropped, literally. I went home to look into my other bag, sms JF and see if I have left it in his car, came in to office to check and it is still no where to be found. I logged on to internet banking and see if anyone has gone on shopping spree with my card (thankfully, no) and I realised that my last transaction was with The Cathay (phew!). So i walked over and yes, my card is with them. I guess I was just so pissed off that day and stormed off only with my movie tickets.

After this whole incident, I concluded that I should not let anger get into my head. I am normally not the forget my card kind but I guess I kinda totally lost it. Anger, no good…Keep cool…Keep cool…and breathe…Inhale…Xhale…

P.S. I saw the same manager, Eugene, again just as I was about to leave.

Sex & the City taught me…

…that friendship can last forever only if you are non judgemental of another.

There were so many occasions that the girls did or should not have done certain things but the rest still stood by them (without being judgemental and accepting them as who they are). I really loved the friendship they had (even though I know it is kinda fictional) and am learning to be non judgemental.

 

My financial consultant friend

Received a sms from a friend (whom I did not stay in contact for quite a long time) few weeks ago to meet up. However, I was not available. This friend called again today and asked to meet up for dinner this Thursday. He told me that he is a financial consultant and his “mentor” will also come along.  Even though I will not buy anything from him, I will still go because I know he needs to meet a few clients with his mentor before he can go on to sell on his own.

I’d always find it very awkward to approach friends to sell insurance. I feel that I am using my friends. Don’t get me wrong. I am a believer in insurance and I do believe that my friends can benefit from it. But I will never approach friends whom I have not contacted for a long time just to sell them insurance. For friends whom I am always in contact, I will just courteously mention that I have switched industry and if they are in need they can approach me. I am saying as though I am in this line which I am not, probably never will. But I would really appreciate friends or people in this line to keep in touch with your other friends on a regular basis and not when you want to sell them some thing. This goes to the same for MLM.

Blessing in Disguise? Despicable Behaviour

Was tuning in to 933 this morning and there were mentions of phone calls to parents saying that their child is being taken and asking for ransom. In both of the cases mentioned, the caller will ask the child to scream for help in the background which turned out that it was not their child BECAUSE their child do not know how to speak mandarin!!!!! DUH!

There seem to be an increase in using children as a way of cheating or robbery. Received an sms from a friend:

“Please take note that if in the middle of the night there’s a small kid whom you do not know knock on your door for help, please do not open and seek assistance from the police. This is the latest tactic of robbery.”

So to all my dear friends, please be careful…